Getting started with tantra to nourish your relationship

Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition originating in India, which focuses on harmonising the body, mind and energy. The term tantra literally means "weaving" or "thread," symbolizing the interconnection between all aspects of existence. Tantra encompasses a series of practices, rituals, and philosophies designed to transcend dualities and access a higher state of consciousness. Tantra aims to awaken the kundalini, the vital energy said to lie at the base of the spine, and to allow it to flow through the chakras to to reach a state of expanded consciousness or enlightenment.

In tantra, the seven chakras are considered energy centres aligned along the spine, each linked to specific physical, emotional and spiritual aspects. Here’s a clear overview, from the base of the spine to the crown of the head:

Muladhara (root chakra): located at the base of the spine, it is linked to security, stability, and grounding.

Svadhisthana (sacral chakra): located in the lower abdomen, it is associated with sensuality, sexuality, and creativity.

Manipura (solar plexus chakra): located in the stomach, it regulates self-confidence and willpower.

Anahata (heart chakra): located in the center of the chest, it governs love, compassion, and relationships.

Vishuddha (throat chakra): supports communication, self-expression, and truth.

Ajna (third eye chakra): located between the eyebrows, it is linked to intuition and mental clarity.

Sahasrara (crown chakra): at the top of the head, it represents spiritual awareness and connection to the divine.

The terms "tantra," "tantric," and "tantrism" are often used interchangeably, but they have distinct meanings. "Tantra" refers to the tradition and sacred texts that form the basis of spiritual teachings. "Tantric" is an adjective that describes anything related to the practice or philosophy of tantra, for example, tantric yoga or tantric rituals. "Tantrism," on the other hand, refers to the movement or doctrine that encompasses all tantric practices and beliefs. Tantrism can be seen as a complete spiritual path that integrates ritual, meditative, and sometimes sexual aspects to encourage spiritual awakening and union with the divine. Thus, Tantrism is not just a sex-oriented approach. It is first and foremost an ancient philosophy that originated in India and has been practiced for 7,000 years. The essence of Tantrism lies in establishing total harmony between partners.

This harmony exists on three levels:

On a physical level: through touch, caresses, and physical contact.

On a mental level: through availability, the mind, and the senses.

On an energetic level: the harmony of both partners in this special moment.

In short, the goal is not to reach orgasm at all costs or to perform, but rather to create an exceptional connection with your partner.

Diving into tantrism may seem intimidating at first, but it is above all a journey of self-discovery and discovery of the other. This practice combines sensory awakening, meditation, and intimate connection, and can be practiced step by step, at your own pace and according to your desires. In this section, discover how to get started easily and lay the foundations for an enriching experience as a couple through simple exercises to practice with your partner step by step.

Prolonged eye contact, or "eye gazing," is a simple but powerful tantric exercise that involves looking into each other's eyes to strengthen your connection and presence with one another. Sit face to face, close enough for your knees to touch, and choose one eye to focus your gaze on. During the exercise, observe your thoughts and emotions: are you judging the other person, trying to influence them, or are you able to remain fully present? If distractions or fears arise, identify them and explore how to overcome them in order to maintain a sincere and deep connection with your partner.

Tantric massage is an excellent way to familiarize yourself with tantra, focusing on sensuality and awakening the senses rather than the sexual act. It is usually practiced on a mattress on the floor, in a relaxing environment, with slow, conscious movements that cover the entire body, including the genital areas, which are massaged with the same attention as the rest of the body. Massage oil helps the touch to glide and be gentle, while eye contact between partners strengthens the connection and intimacy. The goal is not sexual stimulation, but rather listening to sensations, emotions, and breathing, allowing for the creation of a deep bond and a space of full presence with the other person.

Tantric yoga, derived from the tantric tradition, combines postures (asanas), breathing techniques (pranayama), and meditation to harmonize and support inner energies. It emphasizes the union of masculine and feminine energy, symbolized by Shiva and Shakti, and seeks to awaken the kundalini in order to circulate it throughout the body and balance the chakras. Practiced alone or as a couple, it improves mindfulness, body-mind alignment, and an intimate and spiritual connection with oneself or one's partner.

Tantric dance is a sensory and energetic practice that awakens the chakras and circulates vital energy. Based on spontaneous, slow movements synchronized with the breath, it releases blockages when practiced solo and strengthens presence, listening, and intimacy as a couple. This gentle physical exploration promotes relational and sexual fulfillment.

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